I have been doing some deep manifesting and thinking in “long-term mode.” As life seems to move so quickly these days, I find myself asking, is what I am doing now going to benefit me and my family a year from now.. 5 years from now… or even 10 years from now? If yes, great! If not, why is it apart of my routine? What purpose is it serving? Furthermore, what are things that I value, but haven’t been as present in my life as I would like them to be. I really just started to get the feeling like God was highlighting intentionality in our decisions as it relates to the habitual nature of humanity. Habits usually only change after A LOT of hard effort is put in. If in 10 years, I want to be practicing this habit… I really need to be putting it into practicing right now. So what are our core values and how do we uphold them as a family unit, right now? Thankfully, I have an amazing husband who is willing to ask these questions with me and modify daily.
Here’s what we have come up with so far…
Full discloser: Me and my husband do not attend a church service and are pretty adamant about not joining one.. however, our faith is still a big part of our lives. We want our kids to see and experience that in practical every day ways. For both of us, taking the time to pray is a huge necessary. Usually, we set aside time to pray individually at night before bed and occasionally at dinner. My husband has been a great leader this area of our lives, but life gets busy and we often eat our meals in front of the tv so our prayers at meal time usually get pushed to before bed.
While this routine is working wonderfully for our marriage/life now, I wondered, is it necessarily going to benefit our family unit/children later on? After some discussion, we decided to implement daily prayers before dinner. We agreed that we need to be intentionally forming a habit now that will benefit our family in a different season.
Health is a big deal for us, but it unfortunately is also something that we have both not taken quite so seriously over the past couple years. Due to countless reasons, we have aloud ourselves to slack off in this department. We aren’t unhealthy, but we certainly are not as healthy as we want to be or as healthy as we want our children to be. So, more changes. More new habits have been implemented. I want our children to be strong. So we will show them what it is to be strong. I want our children to be energetic. So, we will show them what it looks like to be energetic.
Not only do I want our family to manifest healthy spiritual and physical qualities, I also want our children to be adventurous and love the outdoors. So we will show them, based on habits that have been formed with them in mind. What does this look like on a daily basis? Morning/afternoon walks, working out at least 3 times a week, eating healthy, less fast food meals, going on outdoor adventures such as hiking or biking (SOMETHING) more than just as a vacation activity.
It is hard not to be attached to a phone, tablet, or tv most of the day, especially in the electronic world we live in today. I can only imagine what it will look like in 10 years. However, in order to accomplish the categories above, electronic exposure HAS to be minimized. So, as we work on forming the above habits, we are also working on getting rid of the habitual routine of using electronics.
I know there will things to added as life moves forward, but I feel really optimistic as our goals and steps to achieve them become more intentional.
What are some of your core family values?